-->
After reading and listening to the story of Victory, we are going to pretend we are Agony Aunts.
Imagine you received this text as a personal letter addressed to you asking for advice.
Write a letter back to Victory giving her advice about what to do, how to behave with her mother back at home, how to lead a successful life.
Bring me the composition either on Monday or Wednesday.
4 comments:
Dear Victory,
Thanks for your letter and putting your trust in me. I can imagine how difficult it is to tell these things to other people and even more if those people are strangers like myself. But don't worry about that, you are in the best place to ask for a piece of advice.
You have to think that she has the same feeling. For her, this situation is as difficult as it is for you.
A good approach for you is that you consider that your mother is a new person that has entered your life, like a new friend. Forget all your prejudices against her and the things that she did before this point and try to know her from zero.
Just imagine yourself and your new "friend" having very long conversations about the things you like, your favorite food, your hobbies or your worries and expectations in your life. She will feel comfortable with you because she will understand that she has become an important person in your life.
Doing that, you will realize that you will have two new people at your home, your mother and your best friend.
I hope this helps you and your mother and I would like to receive a letter where I can read that, due to my words, your life is a little bit better.
Kind Regards,
Agony Aunt
Dear Victory,
Reading your letter I realize that you are suffering from an emptiness in your life. As you say, you feel a gaping hole inside needing to be filled. Why isn’t this hole filled with a new relationship with your mother?
I know it’s difficult for you to treat your mother like this. At present, you are like strangers. Therefore, the first thing you should do is spend time with her. You need to know each other.
Victory, I’m sure that when you met Tommy you didn’t get on with her as well as now. Your friendship has grown up while you shared moments and things. So, you ought to share things with your mother. I don’t know what you like to do in your spare time but whatever you like you should share it with her. For instance, you could go to the cinema together once a week.
Moreover, Victory, you have to recognize that your mother is also worried about how to treat you. She has been in prison for all your life and naturally, she feels guilty about leaving you. However, I notice in your letter your mother loves you. So, she deserves an opportunity to get your love.
Besides, Victory, your mother could give you good advice because she has made mistakes in her life and surely, she has learned from her experience.
You should talk to her about your boyfriend. Sharing your feelings with your mother is a good way to know each other.
Finally, as your mother says, you have a great name `Victory´ and I’m sure you will manage to have a good relationship with her.
Best wishes.
Susana
Agony Aunt-Advice columnist
This is a place for you to get answers to problems and questions to get your worries off your chest. You have to know that I too have had the same problems.
Dear Victoria,
Regarding what you want to know, you think that parents put pressure on their kids because they care about them and believe that is the best way of encouraging them to do their best.
There is no doubt that you have to make such a huge effort to improve your situation with your mother but it is important you stay positive.
Furthermore, the only thing you can do is just take it easy. Be nice around her, do the dishes, keep the place tidy, etc when you stay at home.
She will soon start to see that you are growing up. You do need to pull the hard feelings to one side though. Besides, if you do want to have a better relationship with her, you have to try to understand her.
For this reason, it is essential to consider that you could usefully start by asking your teachers for advice. The end the lessons, when others are leaving the room is the best time to make this approach.
You can tell the teachers what you´ve been finding difficult, ask if they think you have specific learning difficulties and how you can best help yourself.
Personally, you could try getting involved with something that is really important to you, maybe start taking steps towards doing something you really want to do but only in your free time at the weekends, for example, to go to dance.
Sure, having someone close to you fire compliments in your direction is always a good confidence boost, but all of that is a biased opinion anyway.
Take time out for yourself and be good to yourself. Keep your chin up!
It seems to me, things will get better, don´t give up, keep trying!
I wish you have a great relationship and I hope it goes well for you.
Good luck!
The previous letter was sent to me by Mónica Aranda. I forgot to write her name down.
Post a Comment